My heart broke a little bit for someone yesterday, and well last night? It broke a little more for me.
I can only write that I am sending out healing, comforting and positive energy to all those that need it now – including me.
I could go into details on what I just wrote, but I won’t – not today.
I will write this instead. This topic is weighing heavy on my heart too, so here it goes:
To my children:
I will ALWAYS be the helicopter mom; pushing you to be the best that I know you can be and encouraging the unlimited potential that I know exists inside you.
I will bitch and gripe and question the bad choices you make, but I will ALWAYS respect your individuality and encourage your walk to the beat of a different drum.
I believe that it is my job and responsibility to make sure you have the necessities in life, but I promise that as long as I am physically able, I will provide a richer world than what I experienced as a child so long as you show true appreciation for the gifts in your life.
I will ALWAYS be the mom that praises and supports you in everything you do or want to accomplish in this life.
I will ALWAYS support your dreams whether I approve or not, because they are in fact, YOUR dreams.
I believe that the more you help others, the more your life will be richly rewarded and I will never let you forget this.
I will never fail to remind you that even as teenagers and the world seems small and drama runs ramped among your friends, your ATTITUDE toward these life experiences will ALWAYS determine your overall happiness.
I will ALWAYS expect payment for the privileges in your life to include chores, good grades and gratitude, and I will never deny you your high school experiences if you put in 100% effort and still fall short. Nobody is perfect.
I will ALWAYS demand you show respect and use your manners in private and public – no negotiations on this one.
I will probably dismiss some of your gripes because I believe that you are bigger than petty gossip or participation, but I will NEVER dismiss your feelings or what you feel deep in your heart.
I don’t know how to be a parent that is not involved with every aspect of your life. The things I do or say about your extracurricular activities, education, work ethics and gratitude will ALWAYS be in your best interest – even though you might want to shank me in my sleep.
I will ALWAYS acknowledge that I am not a perfect parent and compromises will be necessary as you get older.
And I will NEVER let you doubt, that I will ALWAYS be your biggest fan and love you unconditionally – even when you are being disciplined.
These are my parenting skills – there’s no other way for me. You will ALWAYS be given the world of support needed in every aspect of your life; as you will also earn those privileges, have rules and be disciplined for bad choices.
Unapologetically,
The parent I am.
